Feeling like you are the only one who has problems in life is a deeply personal and often distressing experience that many of us go through at different stages of our lives. Don’t you find it concerning?
This perception can help from various sources, such as our SOCIAL COMPARISON, INDIVIDUAL COMPARISON, PHYSIOLOGICAL COMPARISON and PSYCHOLOGICAL PATTERNS.
People usually present a positive image and seem to be satisfied through the SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORM among the people. Everyone wants to look like a happy & jolly person. This can create a sort of illusion that others are having the comfort you don’t have and you’re the only one who’s struggling in life & others are enjoying the maximum benefits and pleasures of their lives.
“This feeling seems like you’re in the spotlight. Where you feel like others are more focused and concerned about your dealing and your issues. But it is not real, it’s all in your mindset.”
However, by understanding the root of these outcoming feelings and how to navigate them can be help alleviate some of these distress associated with this type of mindset:
YOUR OWN PERSONAL STRUGGLES
DO EVERYONE FACE PROBLEMS AT DIFFERENT PHASES OF LIFE?
We face problems at different stages of life. Sometimes we find it hard to keep them to us, yet these struggles become visible, like the Financial difficulties or Health issues. Some others like Relationship problems & Mental health issues which can be hidden.
However, while facing these struggles it creates an outcome to you that HAPPINESS is only related to others, while you are the only one who is much miserable in every situation.
The truth is that life is filled with challenges for everyone but the nature , perspective & intensity of facing those challenges vary. So you shouldn’t let the bad thoughts come in your mind that ‘PROBLEMS ARE ONLY CREATED FOR YOU’ this thought is completely wrong.
You should accept the fact and let it go, face it bravely & don’t let someone find out your weak points at any stage of your life.
When you ever have a problem do you worry about it first or trying to solve it first? Many of you have the answer that you worry about it first. If you work hard on this matter it will help you out & This will prove to be a satisfactory life & satisfactory death to you.
SOCIAL COMPARISON & ITS IMPACT
DO YOU FEEL SAD WHEN PEOPLE ARE HAPPY?
You feel primarily SAD & ISOLATED due to your comparison with others. You thought that people are happy and willingly enjoying life and only you are facing struggle. This Comparison may be created by you or maybe the people around you create it. Which is completely wrong . Having this sort of humor and comparison is called SOCIAL COMPARISON.
With the rise of Social Media, this problem is getting much more serious among the people. Where you can easily fall into the trap that everybody is having their life happily together & the reality is completely different from what it seems on your socials.
People often share their SUCCESS, HAPPY MOMENTS, ACHIEVEMENTS but do you ever think they rarely broadcast their FAILURES, INSECURITIES or HARDSHIPS. This selectively sharing create a bad & distorted reality, where it appear out as everyone is happy and successful and you are left with harsh problems.
As it is a society where you don't have control over other people's minds, yet you can have control over yourself, your self grooming , your preferences.
You should maintain or stabilize life in a way where you are ready to welcome your PROBLEMS & where you HEAL yourself .
You don't need any external energy to heal you, where you don't need anybody to motivate you. WHERE YOU ITSELF IS YOUR MOTIVATION.
THE URGE OF PERFECTION
DO YOU ALSO WANT TO APPEAR OUT AS A PERFECT PERSON?
You always see your life comparatively less perfect than others. You should accept your flaws. Don't you think? If not you may start to believe that you’re unlucky because your life doesn't match with the perfect lives of others.
By knowing this truth that nobody can be perfect you can vanish your negative thoughts that you’re much more perfect and complete then others.
If not this can lead to a negative self-talk where your HEART completely takes the role of your MIND and starts to make you believe that you have more bad energy in you.
As for your FAILURE you will not accept it in a good way and rather think it is a NATURAL PART, you will blame your struggle.
You should have this passion in you to be Perfect. But not from some other people, It should be from the previous VERSION of yourself.
When you realize the fact that you are competing with yourself it will automatically turn out to be your SUCCESS.
In this era where everybody wants to take the place of others, you will remain left behind if you don't accept yourself & your imperfections, if not then it will bring another element of JEALOUSY which can completely destroy yourself. Nobody will be there for you to make you perfect, it's all up to you how you treat yourself.
SPOT LIGHT EFFECT
Do you always think that you're in the spotlight & everybody is noticing you?
Spotlight effect is actually a belief that everybody is watching you & they are paying much more attention to you then their other matters.
It may lead to a situation where you feel & assume all these things by yourself and it turns out to make you much uncomfortable.
Who can change this thought to not care about people's opinion?
Will people come to make you understand they are not looking at you?
Will they ask you to keep calm?
This is not a reliable world which feels like heaven to you. Yet your step toward yourself makes it heaven for you. These are all useless, bad thoughts. Some people don’t take control over these thoughts and act like that it’s their fault, all these matters should be handled by you carefully. You manipulate all these things by yourself.
In this era it is much harder to find support from others as everybody thinks about their own dealings first. So why don't you give your matter a first PRIORITY for you and your dealings.
In a situation like this, keep in mind that nobody is watching you and having a little CONFIDENCE in yourself can help you take over your bad thoughts.
ASPECTS & CONCLUSIONS
WILL ONLY THESE BUILT IN CHARACTER WILL HELP ME VANISH MY NEGATIVE THOUGHTS?
The answer to this question is “YES”.
But these following factors should be in you to help yourself think, it is not just you who is facing problems and failure but it is a story of every person and every drenched heart who is begging for SUCCESS.
FACTORS
YOUR SELF WORTH:
Nobody is created meaningless or worthless; it's in your thoughts that make you worth yourself.
LACK OF SUPPORT SYSTEM:
Your emotional health plays a vital role which can be brought by GOOD FRIENDS, FAMILY or COMMUNITY you’re associated with.
CONSTANT HAPPINESS:
Happiness can play the best role then disappointment does.
PROFESSIONAL HELP:
It is not associated with people, it is associated with therapists. where you can get guidelines about your mental health and physical relaxation.
DEALING WITH PROBLEMS:
Be mature enough to deal with your problems instead of begging for help.
DO YOU THINK ONLY YOU ARE MISERABLE NOW?
If you are not following your mind and instead of it you follow your heart the answer turns out to be “YES” for you, otherwise by keeping a control on your thoughts and these factors a bit by bit will turn out the answer as “NO”.
NARCISSISM
This is your personality trait where you lack your self confidence, easily disappointed and being arrogant for nothing.
Problems don't entangle you until you yourself become prey to it. Situations can be handled when you have faith in yourself, seeking help & looking for help will make you miserable and pitiable.
CONCLUSION:
WHAT DO YOU CONCLUDE FROM ALL THESE POINTS?
Analyze yourself daily how much you listen to your mind?
Which steps are you taking toward SUCCESS?
How far you came in search of Positive thoughts?
Do you care about other people's opinions?
Do you still have thoughts that only you’re facing problems in life?
“IF YOU’RE IMPROVING DAY BY DAY IT’S MEAN YOU ARE TAKING STEP TOWARDS SELF GROOMING & SUCCESS DAY BY DAY”
And if you are doing much more effort to achieve this aim in comparison with others. It doesn't mean that you are less capable. KNOW YOUR IMPORTANCE is the slogan you should have
In conclusion, the feeling WHY IT’S ALWAYS ME!!!! Is a rubbish thought which shouldn’t come to mind and if it came it should be removed completely without any trace of regret.
It is a very common problem among people but still neglected by considering it their own fault.
NOW YOU HAVE TO CONVERT YOUR
WHY IT’S ALWAYS ME!!!!
TO
IT SHOULD BE ME!!!!
For the sake of your healthy life & for getting unlimited opportunity to achieve the desired aim.
Success keeps chasing its owner and forget the path until you become delusional to it, by your low self esteem.
(Half book)
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